No orgasms, who's to blame?

Men are usually to blame for women not having orgasms.
But not all the time.
Women carry their part of the blame for not having orgasms.

Women should take responsibility for her own orgasms, not just leave it all up to men.
After all, what can a guy do?
He looks at the information on this website, he even orders a penis enlargement program or erection enhancement pills... but what more can he do?

After all is said and done, he did all he could do. He read the information about female anatomy and orgasm, he has a STRONG PENIS, he lasts all night long, he showers his woman with love and attention... but come on...

So what I'm saying is that women must really fight for their orgasm. If they want it they really should be happy with the changes go for them but they also start working for it too.

All women should decide what they want from their partners and find out what kind of pleasure their body can give them.

In the past men used to view women as tools for providing sexual pleasure. I think that's what women should start doing to men now.

I mean what I said in the best way! Women should make sure that their partners give them what they need sexually, but also sentimentally.

Just like everything in life, you can't just give, you have to receive. And sometimes a little selfishness is good too... better than sexual frustration anyway!

Women must also be very honest to themselves and to their partners about what they want and when they want it.

Many women don't have sex just to have orgasms (as we've seen women are fully capable of obtaining orgasms when they're alone), they have sex just because they like the feeling of bodies close together, the touch of their lovers on the skin or just the sexual pleasure that comes without intercourse.

So, on occasions women don't pursuit orgasm.
But, what would make their life better, not to mention their partners life, is to tell their partner what they want before sex and not after.

Just think about it... what good does it do to tell a guy after he ejaculated and he's wiped... �You know? I wanted an orgasm!�... or why let a guy give you cunnilingus for an hour before telling him that you can't feel a damn thing?
Just asking.

But for a woman to be able to communicate all that to her partner she must know what she wants.
She must be in touch with what she feels, needs, wants, expects.
If that is achieved she can communicate what she wants to her lover and obtain it.

So if women want orgasms why don't they tell the man next to them what to do to give them the orgasms?
Is it so hard to say �Kiss my nipples.� or �Touch my clitoris.� instead of moaning and acting as if she likes stuff that she really doesn't like?

Also, both partners should be completely honest with each other.
Both women and men must be able to say �stop� and �no�. Yep, you read right... men too. If you re a woman and you're reading this you're probably laughing your heart out, if you're a man and know what I'm talking about I probably brought back painful memories.

Let me exemplify for the ladies: I have a friend and this friend has a girlfriend. Knowing that I have been documenting for this website he came to me with this problem: his girlfriend gave him oral sex, but she sucked too hard, bit his penis... left him bruised and sore. So he asked me what can he do about it. What could I tell him? I told him to tell his girlfriend in the sweetest way possible that she's making him sore and that he'd prefer a more gentle �approach� to oral sex.

So you see ladies... men can also be put in the position where they must say �No� or �Not like this�.

I think that's the best thing anyone can do... of course you can make a list of likes and dislikes and stick it on the fridge, but I can't see how that can make communication and understanding in couple go to a higher level.

You see, for men, giving their partner an orgasm is not only about their partners pleasure, it's also about a demonstration of skill on their behalf.

Why is that? Because that's what they see on TV and that's what they read in magazines so they obviously start thinking that's expected from them.

Giving women orgasms has become a �goal�, a point on a imaginary �to do before I die� list. Sadly, for some men, giving their partner orgasms has turned for some men into something that's no longer dictated by the need to please the woman they love but by fake standards.

Also it seems that only Super-People have sex on TV. Men who can make women have orgasms after 30 seconds of penetration without any clitoral stimulation and women who orgasm just by vaginal penetration alone.

If you ask me, I'd tell you that there's more to sex than having/giving an orgasm. Don't know if I'm wrong or right, but I feel that sex should be something pleasant for both man and woman, and not be seen as a chore.

This is and advice I have for men.
Treat every sexual experience as if it is the first time you have sex. I don't mean ejaculate after 1 minute of penetration.

I mean try to �read� your woman, find out what she wants from you, make her tell you what she wants, make her show you what she wants.

Don't do the same thing over and over again. You'll get bored, and if you get bored there's no reason your partner doesn't get bored. I'm not saying to change position every 5 minutes or start doing acrobatics if you both don't feel like it.

Just try to be �tuned� to what the woman next to you wants. If you've seen porn movies in which women were up for everything doesn't mean your partner's up for everything too.

Try to communicate before making love, during making love and after.
Not only it's a sensual experience, but it also makes you become an attentive lover, a lover focused on the pleasure of his partner as well as on his own pleasure.

Also keep in mind the fact that biological factors influence your partner's mood and sexual desires.

If any of the female readers disagree with what I wrote or have something to add... please let me know. I am doing this site only because I want both partners to enjoy a fulfilled love life.

COMMENTS

isaac
well done :) keep up the good job

Alex's answer:

Thanks =) Be sure to check out our other sites also. We love developing great information for readers like yourself.

geoffrey
my girlfriend don't like sex with me anymore. please correct this.

Alex's answer:

Have you tried talking to her? The only way you'll know what she needs is by discussing it with her.

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