The elusive orgasm

Many women want it... few actually get it.

Did you know that orgasm has the same mechanism if it's given by your hand touching your clitoris and if it's given by your partner's penis stimulating your vagina?

It's true... you you don't have to think about how the orgasm occurs, you're wasting time and neurons.

So what I'm trying to say is that no matter what makes you finish is perfectly normal. If you can only orgasm when you use a vibrator why don't you take that to bed with you and your partner. Most men I know would be more than happy to know the woman they love receives pleasure and trusts them in bed.

Very important! DO NOT FAKE ORGASM!!!

Why fake it? You can only lose. If you fake not only you lie to a man who cares about you but you're also doing yourself a big disfavor.

How come?
Well, the poor sucker will think he's doing it right... I mean, you did lead him to believe you had an orgasm... so he'll just keep on doing it... because he thinks he's pleasing you.

Sure, thinking he's giving you one orgasm after another will make him feel like a macho... but what about you?

Now let's talk a little about your ability to have orgasms.

If you can't have orgasms as a result of vaginal penetration then I can't see a reason for which you should feel like you're less of a woman. All the women I've been with couldn't have an orgasm with vaginal penetration alone. Most women can't experience orgasm if only their vagina is stimulated.

Also, if you can't have orgasms as a result of vaginal penetration there's no reason for you to feel compelled to do it. Only because your partner wants it is not a good enough reason. I know that vaginal intercourse is what you've been taught really means �making love�, but in my opinion making love is what makes both members of the couple feel good.

So, if you can't experience orgasm by vaginal penetration you should engage in sexual activities that allow you to orgasm. If you have orgasms when you're stimulated with a vibrator why not tell that to your boyfriend/husband? I'm sure he'll want to make you happy, not to mention spice up things in bed by using a vibrator.

Also, experimenting is always a good idea. Try petting, try erotic massage, try mutual masturbation, try oral sex, if you feel like it you can even try anal sex. Just because you've never done something else than vaginal sex doesn't mean it doesn't feel good... you might discover it actually feels better.

Once you discovered what makes you feel good in bed and makes you have an orgasm, start exploring with it. I'm sure you know there are more ways to do one thing... so to spice up your sex � life you can give everything a try. Actually, that's my motto in bed: �Try everything at least once�.

If stimulation of your clitoris feels good than that's what you should ask your partner to do, or if you feel uncomfortable telling him that you can do it yourself. I'm sure that he'll want to give it a try and do it for you sooner or later.

It's a good idea to get really aroused BEFORE having any sexual activity. Experience doing naughty things with your lover before actually having sex.

Go to a restaurant and touch each other under the table, or go to the man's bathroom after him and lock yourselves in a booth, go to the park and pick a less populated area, sit on a bench and start kissing, when no one's around you might even want to caress his genital area.

There are so many things you can do that will not only add a little fizz to your routine but will also get you guys ready for a hot sexual experience when you get home.

Another thing I want to talk to you about is your lover.
If he's a man he's most likely experiencing orgasm in every sexual experience he has with you.
And if you're reading this you probably don't...

What can you do?
You can either deny him orgasm, to be even, or you can �trade�.
Yeap, you read right... trade.
You can take turns in giving each other orgasms, either in the same sexual experience or today is your turn and tomorrow is his turn.

This way, if your partner is selfish in bed you can show him that you need to have orgasms too and that him focusing only on his pleasure won't cut it.

I know that while trying to give your partner pleasure, many times you forget about yourself in the process. This shouldn't be the case.

It's very important to keep in mind that you're not an inflatable doll. You want to also receive, not only give. I know many men who are not ready to give their lovers sexual pleasure and orgasm. Their �Get in, get out, no one gets hurt.� mentality might give them quick orgasms but it sure can't give them a woman who loves them and who loves the fact that they're committed to giving her pleasure.

What I think is quite important: no woman should engage in partner sex if she can't experience orgasm when she masturbates.

Let me put it this way... if you, who had the X years you have now to discover your body can't give yourself an orgasm, do you really think a man who you've known for X-n days or months can?

You need to thoroughly know your road to orgasm before you can start on the partner sex way to orgasm.

If you do engage in partner sex in search of an orgasm before you can make yourself have an orgasm it's most likely you'll get frustrated not only with yourself and your body, but also with your partner.

If, on the other hand the man you're with is acting like he has the right to do whatever he wants to your body, that if he wants to have sex with you then you should do what he wants then he's not really good for anything and can only make your sex life a living hell full of regret, frustration and disappointments.

COMMENTS

Kortex
women love anal sex, well written article bro :)

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