• What is virginity?
• Do you have what it takes?
• Enter... the partner
• The perfect first time
• The truth about vaginal intercourse
• Orgasm aid

Before engaging in vaginal intercourse, young women should take a moment to think if they have what it takes to make this first step towards vaginal intercourse.

What does it takes?

Self awareness:
You should know your body. Your entire body. Just because you want to engage in vaginal intercourse it doesn't mean that you should only know where your vagina is. You should know where your clitoris is, how it looks like, how to stimulate it to orgasm. Not only that, but you should know what other parts of your body give you pleasure. Know what arouses you, what you feel when you are aroused. As I've told you before, sexual arousal is very important for a sexual experience to be pleasant.

Know how to masturbate:
You must be the first one to know how to give yourself pleasure. If you know how to masturbate to orgasm, you're more likely to experience orgasm during partner sex. How come? Because not only you know what makes you feel good and can help your partner discover what makes you feel good, but it also “work” the connections between brain and genitals and prepares them for orgasm.

And another bonus of knowing how to masturbate is that you'll always have a way of pleasuring yourself, in case your partner can't bring you to orgasm or for when you don't have a partner.

Engage in mutual masturbation:
Think of this as giving and receiving pleasure. In vaginal intercourse you might not always feel satisfied, but by mutual masturbation you and your partner will learn what the other enjoys, so when the time comes you can use it to give each other orgasms. Also. It's a good idea to watch your partner masturbate to orgasm, this is an amazing learning experience.

Engage in oral sex:
Not only will oral sex will allow you to explore your lover's body, it will also allow you to give him an orgasm without vaginal penetration. Think of it this way, our lips and tongues are very sensitive, and guess what, so are our genitals.

If you're asking at what age should a young woman engage in vaginal intercourse... I'm not the one you have to ask. You should ask yourselves.

Let me tell you what I do know. There are two factors that I know for sure influence the age both boys and girls become sexually active: peer pressure and puberty.

If as a girl you become aware of the fact that your peers have already become sexually active it's more likely you'll also become sexually active soon. On the other hand, if your friends did not yet engage in sexual activities and you live in a society that does not permit girls to become sexually active at a young age you're less likely to be attracted to sex.

Puberty is the other factor that influences the age at which a girl decides do become sexually active. It's a fact that girls that enter puberty at a younger age are likely to begin their sex – lives earlier. This happens for two reasons: the sex – drive gets harder to ignore and boys, namely older boys, begin to notice the growing breasts.

Sex with a partner should, in my opinion, postponed as long as possible. I say that because the girl should first explore and get to know her sexuality before letting herself be explored.

This is very unlikely in most societies. In all societies parents freak out when they see their toddler playing with his/ her genitals, when they find out their daughter or son is masturbating and so on.

So a normal sexual knowledge can't be obtained, because our parents, while trying to do us a favor, pretty much destroy the only ways we could have learned to have a happy and fulfilling sex - life.

No girl should rush into partnered sex. If normal sexual development would be let to take it's course, there should be 15 years between the first exploration of sex to the first experience with intercourse. The way things are now, that passing can happen not in 15 years but in 15 minutes.

I'm not saying that partnered sex is not a pleasant experience, but it can be a far better experience if you wait until you know your body well enough to enjoy sex at it's best.

The things we talked about earlier: self awareness, masturbation, mutual masturbation and oral sex can only prepare you for sex with a partner. These are basic skills that are best to be learned before actually engaging in intercourse. They can do you no harm, only make you experience sex for all it's worth, not be left with a bitter taste.

Sexuality is what one makes it... sadly that's not true... sexuality is dictated by the ones around us. So until you can decide for yourself it's best if you don't engage in sex, could do you more harm than good.

Why should you want to have sex?
It's kinda' childish, but here goes... because you want to, because it feels good to give and receive sexual pleasure.

There are also reasons from which you should run and that should not contribute to your decision on weather to have sex or not:

• because it's “grownup”

• because everyone does it

• because your partner wants you to

Men would go to amazing lengths just to have sex with a girl/woman but sex won't make them love you more or respect you more.

The only way a man can and does prove his love and respect for you is by not pressuring you, not pushing you to have sex when you are not ready for it. It's the “suckers” that wait until the woman is ready to make love to them that are the real men.

The last thing I want to talk to you on this page is the fact that, as powerful as the biological need to have sex is, it shouldn't be obeyed by girls.

I know that puberty is not the most “hormone free” period in our lives but if you ask me it's better to go through it listening to your brain rather than listening to your...

This is not only the case for men you know? Girls at young ages have powerful sex- drives but that's just the hormones talking, not genuine need.

Mr. G Spot
my gf is an asian. it's ok to make my penis bigger for her small vagina?

Alex's answer:

That's between you and her.  If her vagina is already very tight, she may not want you to have a bigger penis.

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